CoParenting101.org and WeParent.com are pleased to announce…

•October 17, 2009 • 1 Comment

…the debut of Co-Parenting Matters,
a live, weekly talk show on BlogTalk Radio!


Debut show: Sunday, October 25, 2009

Co-Parenting Matters
because kids thrive when parents partner.

Join us every Sunday evening @ 9:30 PM EST for a lively discussion of a variety of co-parenting related issues: communication, single parenting, divorce, finances, custody, dating, wellness, stepfamilies, and much more.

Hosted by the founders of WeParent.com (Talibah Mbonisi) and CoParenting101.org (Deesha Philyaw and Michael Thomas), along with guest experts: attorneys, counselors, and fellow co-parents! [And you can count on me (Blkirish) to make an appearance or two. Deesha is my fiancee...and my favorite writer.]

For our inaugural show, we will focus on Co-Parenting Myths. What misconceptions hinder your co-parenting relationship? Share your experiences and pose your questions by calling in to (646) 378-0580 during the show on October 25th.

What issues and questions would you like to hear discussed on Co-Parenting Matters? We are planning upcoming shows and welcome YOUR input! Send us an email (info AT coparenting101 DOT org), or call in during the show.

Can’t join us on Sunday nights? Listen to CoParenting Matters podcasts at BlogTalk Radio your leisure.

We invite you to tune in!

Who needs a ride ‘or die I got a “effin B”

•February 24, 2009 • 1 Comment

– this is a cut -n-paste from my favorite writer …

(fyi .. I’m TechBoo)

As usual, I didn’t get enough sleep throughout the week, so on Friday when TechBoo and I rolled into his older sister’s 40-something bday party at about 10:45 pm, I was already pooped. But this was DC and there was go-go music in the club(Hi, Elizabeth!), a VIP section featuring a round bed, and free-flowing drinkies… so you know how that goes…we didn’t get home until about 3:30 am.

But a fun time was had by all. The birthday girl was channeling Marilyn Monroe a la the dress over the sewer grate. TechBoo’s other older sister was the life of the party as usual; her younger boyfriend (yeah, she’s a cougar) did an admirable job of keeping up with her on the dance floor.

Some people had too much fun, though. The bday girl’s best friend–we’ll call her Lisa–has always seemed to have an Issue with me ever since we met last spring. Nothing too obvious and nothing I could ever put my finger on; I just knew I wasn’t one of her favorite people and, well, I didn’t care. But then at TechBoo’s other sister’s bday party at TechBoo’s house last fall, some of us were talking about children’s books like Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret, at the end of the night (long story), and Lisa just went off, on me in particular, yelling: “I didn’t buy my kids books! I talked to my kids! I talked to my kids about life!” As if you can’t do both…but, whatever. I just stared at her like she was crazy. Which she apparently is…

So we’re at the party Friday night, and I’m wearing my cute boots and dancing up a storm, so you know what happens next: my dogs start barking, as we say in the vernacular. So Tech Boo and I sit on this bench in the VIP bday party area, so that I can talk off my boots, and he can rub my feet. Well, Lisa stumbles (literally) upon us. She’s had way too much to drink. She starts yelling at us about how we aren’t supposed to do that in Da Club…”Y’all ain’t 50! Why y’all acting so old! Y’all younger than me! I’m a single mom too!”

HUH??

So Tech Boo and I just laugh at her like you’re supposed to laugh at drunk people who are acting stupid…and he continues to rub my feet.

Well, this enrages Lisa. She starts yelling at me, “How old are you? How old are you? I’m a single mother too! How old are you?”

Me: “I’m 50.”

What followed consisted of her calling me an effin’ bee…oh, about 3 or 4 times, interspersed with the question about my age, the declaration that I’m “bourgie”…and oh, yeah, she’s a single mom too.

TechBoo and I are incredulous. We both are doing the “okay-she’s-really-nuts-is-this-going-to-get-physical” nervous laughter thing.

She keeps asking my age; I keep saying I’m 50; TechBoo keeps rubbing my feet; she keeps calling me an effin’ bee.

And then she slapped TechBoo.

I wish I were making this up.

Now mind you, Lisa weighs about 80 lbs in a snowsuit.

TechBoo yelled her name to try to snap her back to sobriety, but she’s still ranting. We’re stunned. Then she starts talking about how now we’re going to kick her out of the family (she’s been friends with TechBoo’s sis since high school). We just stare at her until she walks away.

TechBoo is a very strong man. He could have snapped her in two and picked his teeth with her…but he’s not That Guy.

I’m nobody’s fighter, and I’ve learned that ignoring people can be a maddeningly effective defense; I think that’s what engraged Lisa most: she called me old, bourgie, and an effin’ bee–and I never blinked.

Still…I’ve never been called an effin’ bee in my life. Or even a regular old bee! Not fun…

Anyhoo…so that was a late night.

Funny of the day!

•February 11, 2009 • 1 Comment

Enjoy …

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Michelle Obama is Vogue’s Cover Girl Next Month

•February 11, 2009 • Leave a Comment

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February 11, 2009 10:36 AM

ABC News’ Yunji de Nies and Sunlen Miller report:

First lady Michelle Obama is on the cover of next month’s Vogue magazine, making her the second first lady to don the fashion magazine’s cover.

Photographed for Vogue’s March issue by famed photographer Annie Leibowitz and interviewed by Andre Leon Talley, Mrs. Obama is shown in a magenta dress seated on a sofa in the Hay Adams Hotel in Washington, DC. The dress is by Jason Wu, the man who designed her white floor-length inaugural ball gown. In addition, inside the magazine are portraits of Mrs. Obama in a J. Crew cardigan, and a Narcisco Rodriguez dress.

Mrs. Obama in an interview with the magazine tells Vogue of her own style, “I love clothes…First and foremost, I wear what I love. That’s what women have to focus on: what makes them feel good about themselves and have fun with fashion.”

On her new role as First Lady Mrs. Obama talked about her own upbringing, “We learned in our household that there was nothing you couldn’t talk about and that you found humor in even the toughest of times. I want to bring that spirit of warmth, openness, and stability to my task,” she said in the interview.

While Mrs. Obama has been on the covers of many magazines in the past – “Ebony” and “Essence” among others — this is her first as First Lady.

Aides in the First Lady’s office expect Mrs. Obama to sit for other such covers– they say it’s part of introducing her and the family to the American people. Mrs. Obama has said that she has a desire to give her daughters and other young African American women the opportunity to see people who look like them on the cover of magazines.

Secretary of State Hillary Clinton was the only former First Lady to make the cover of Vogue in 1998. During the presidential race last February Mrs. Clinton was set to appear on the cover, but backed out – apparently concerns were raised that in the heat of the campaign against then Senator Obama, that she would appear “too feminine.”:

In her editor’s letter that month, Anna Wintour wrote, “The notion that a contemporary woman must look mannish in order to be taken seriously as a seeker of power is frankly dismaying.”

–Yunji de Nies and Sunlen Miller

Outta time …

•February 5, 2009 • 1 Comment

Classes start 2/14 … I have so many things to blog about and so lttle time. The girls are a handfull and the woman is krazie. But I love them all. Bro in Law getting ready for his matrimonials! Best wishes to them.

Okay that was just a blurb but I was here so decided to give you a little something.

~blk

What about my stimulus?

•January 28, 2009 • 1 Comment

Tough times for porn, booze
Even sin isn’t secure anymore. Gambling, sex, cigarettes and alcohol are among the supposedly recession-proof businesses hit hard by the economic downturn.
[Related content: stocks, entertainment, consumer goods, Altria, Michael Brush]
By Michael Brush
MSN Money
In this economy, even the wages of sin aren’t what they used to be.

Market lore says people keep spending on sex, booze, butts and slots in hard times, no matter what. Sin is supposedly recession-proof.

But the widespread weakness among so-called sin stocks suggests the downturn has converted a lot of sinners into saints.

Playboy Enterprises (PLA, news, msgs) stock is down about 80% in the past year, twice the 40% decline of the S&P 500 Index ($INX). Casino operator Las Vegas Sands (LVS, news, msgs) is down more than 90%. And alcohol stocks such as Diageo (DEO, news, msgs) and Constellation Brands (STZ, news, msgs) have done little better than the market.

The Vice Fund (VICEX), which invests in many of these industries, hasn’t done any better that the S&P 500 over the past year. A gaming and casino fund run by Ladenburg Thalmann closed in December.

All of this suggests Hustler publisher Larry Flynt might not have been kidding after all earlier this month when he asked Washington for a $5 billion “stimulus” package for the porn industry. Strippers, card dealers and bartenders are hurting just like, well, Wall Street bankers.

Still smoking and drinking
Satan isn’t on the mat just yet, though. A close peep into these industries reveals:

People are cutting back on porn, strippers and gambling.

They’re spending about as much as ever on booze and cigarettes, though drinkers may be trading down to the cheaper stuff.

For investors, this means the safer bets are on companies that satisfy those vices people are still feeding: butts and booze. Many of those stocks have been hammered in this market anyway, so they may even be bargains.

With humans being what they are, a return to good times will likely bring back robust spending on porn and gambling. But with a rebound in the economy and consumer spending still far off, it’s probably too early to buy these stocks in these sectors.

Sex sells, but less than before
The downturn has been hard on smut vendors and strippers.

Playboy, that iconic purveyor of bunnies, hasn’t flashed its fourth-quarter results yet, but the writing is on the wall. Last week, Hugh Hefner’s company announced job cuts. More ominously, it is writing down at least $100 million in assets.

This is troubling because under accounting rules, companies must take assets off the books when they are deemed worthless because they won’t produce revenue. So Playboy is “telling you what financial performance will look like for the next year,” and it is saying it’s going to be bad, says one analyst who follows the company.

Like Playboy, Private Media Group (PRVT, news, msgs), a porn company based in Barcelona, Spain, saw revenue drop in the third quarter. “We are all getting hit. Everybody’s being affected by the recession,” Private Media operations chief Peter Cohen says.

And at Rick’s Cabaret International (RICK, news, msgs), a chain of high-end strip joints, revenue at clubs open more than a year was flat in the fourth quarter, compared with a 14.6% gain in the previous 12 months.

Business at strip clubs in several markets is still strong, though. One of those is New York City, so you have to wonder if bank-bailout money is finding its way into garter belts. Allan Priaulx of Rick’s attributes his clubs’ relative strength to a “flight to quality,” meaning that pole dancer fans on a budget choose high-end clubs like Rick’s rather than take a chance on a dive.

Profit margins are also getting squeezed. Feeling the pinch of the recession, big spenders are pulling back on premium drinks and lap dances. “We don’t have that person who’s spending $2,000 or $3,000 in a night as often as they used to,” VCG Holding (VCGH, news, msgs) chief Troy Lowrie told investors in a November conference call. VCG, which runs about 20 clubs in 10 states, saw revenue fall in the third quarter.

The recession has at least one upside for strip clubs. “There are more beautiful girls that come out in a poor economy,” Lowrie says. “The person that might have lost their $50,000-a-year secretarial job is now a gorgeous entertainer for us.”

Gambling
The recession has even been worse at the slot machines. Last year, the gaming take in Las Vegas was down more than 6%, and the number of visitors fell 4%.

But consumer spending is only half the double whammy that sent some gaming stocks down by 60% to 90% over the past year. The credit crunch arrived just as many gaming companies were in the middle of aggressive expansions funded by lots of debt.

They have little hope of turning profits on new casinos soon, but they still have the debt. “We see projects on the Las Vegas strip and even in Macau standing half-built,” says Charles Norton, the manager of the Vice Fund. “Companies are choking on their balance sheets.”

It’s way too early to think about doing much investing in the sector, says Norton. “It’s going to be pretty tough until 2010.” However, a peek at his largest holdings shows the ones he favors right now. Among them:

Wynn Resorts (WYNN, news, msgs) looks good in part because it has a stronger balance sheet than many of its competitors, Morningstar (MORN, news, msgs) analyst Sumit Desai says.

Scientific Games (SGMS, news, msgs) makes state lottery systems and games used by casinos. It should benefit as states turn to lotteries and gaming to make up revenue shortfalls caused by the recession.

Norton also has a big position in WMS Industries (WMS, news, msgs), which should benefit from the move to server-based slots, a big trend in the slot industry.

Norton is worth listening to in these sectors because his fund is up 41.6% since it was launched in August 2002, through the end of 2008, compared with 11.3% returns for the S&P 500 over the same time frame.

Goldman Sachs (GS, news, msgs) analyst Steven Kent has buy ratings on Pinnacle Entertainment (PNK, news, msgs) and Las Vegas Sands but advises investors to avoid several casino companies, including the near-pure play on Las Vegas, MGM Mirage (MGM, news, msgs).

Booze
While the recession has people cutting back on porn and gambling, they’re still drinking. “In the United States, market conditions remain pretty healthy,” Constellation Brands chief Robert Sands said in a call with investors this month. Constellation expects overall sales to grow in the mid-single-digit range in the coming year.

But drinkers are trading down, Norton says. They now favor cheaper beers over premium imports or craft beers such as Samuel Adams from Boston Beer (SAM, news, msgs). They’re going for wine and beer over spirits. Those sticking to the hard stuff are trading down from high-end premiums like Grey Goose vodka to cheaper premiums like Svedka vodka, which Constellation sells.

Even though alcohol sales are holding up fairly well, alcohol stocks have been hit, as investors in this market ignore fundamentals and sell stocks indiscriminately, says Norton.

That makes well-run booze companies such as London’s Diageo decent stocks to buy for possible gains once the recession subsides. Diageo is one of the largest alcohol producers in the world, carrying Johnnie Walker, Guinness, Smirnoff, J&B, Baileys, Cuervo, Tanqueray and other well-known brands.

Smokes
Of all the legal vices, cigarettes may be the hardest to cut back on because they are so darn addictive. “This is truly a demand-resilient story,” Norton says.

Nevertheless, cigarette stocks have been weak. This doesn’t make sense, because these companies generate so much cash. Plus their potential remains strong, especially in emerging markets. In countries like Russia, China and India, a growing middle class is trading up from cheaper local brands to premium cigarettes sold by Imperial Tobacco (ITY, news, msgs), British American Tobacco (BTI, news, msgs), Philip Morris International (PM, news, msgs) and other big international companies.

That’s one reason these are top holdings in the Vice Fund and may be a buy right now. “We still continue to see up trading in the emerging markets pretty much across the board,” Norton says. “The big driver of that is affordability. A can of Red Bull is more expensive in Russia than a pack of Marlboros. Parliament, a premium brand, costs less than a Snickers bar in the Ukraine.”

Both of these brands have been gaining market share in Russia, Ukraine and Latin America. That’s one reason Philip Morris, which sells them, saw volume grow 3.2% in the third quarter and net revenue advance 7.2%, excluding the gains from acquisitions.

The case for Altria Group (MO, news, msgs) is not so bullish, at least in the long term, because it sells cigarettes in the U.S., where sales continue to drop around 3% to 4% a year. That trend will likely continue as taxes keep going up. But as a one- or two-year play, Altria may do well as confidence returns to the market, because it has been beaten down. Altria sells for under $17 a share, down from a high last year above $24. But Morningstar analyst Philip Gorham believes the fair value is more like $27, one reason he gives it five stars, Morningstar’s highest rating.

Slumdog Millionaire is a must see!

•January 25, 2009 • 1 Comment

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My favorite writer put this on our must see list a few weeks ago and I’m happy for it. This film gets a solid butterey popcorn thumbs up!

From Danny Boyle, director of Trainspotting and 28 Days Later, comes the story of Jamal Malik, an 18 year-old orphan from the slums of Mumbai, who is about to experience the biggest day of his life…

I don’t think I’ve ever watched the Oscar awards … but this year I just might. This film, in my opinion, is that good. And a great soundtrack as well featuring M.I.A.

Check out the Slumdog Millionaire’s Oscar Nominations Page here.

•January 15, 2009 • Leave a Comment

BART Cop charged with Murder …

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By Sandra Gonzales
Mercury News

Johannes Mehserle, the BART cop who shot and killed an unarmed man in Oakland on New Year’s Day, sat behind bars in a Bay Area jail on Wednesday night, charged with murder.

Appearing in a Nevada court Wednesday, Mehserle waived extradition and returned to the Bay Area, where he was taken to Santa Rita Jail on the murder charge — a rare filing against a police officer — that was announced by Alameda County District Attorney Tom Orloff.

Mehserle’s arrest, however, for the shooting of 22-year-old Oscar Grant III, did little to dampen the outrage in a city already beleaguered with economic troubles and skyrocketing crime.

Ever since Grant’s shooting was captured on a cell phone and widely replayed on national television and the Internet, protests have erupted in San Francisco and Oakland, where many residents have had long-running tension with law enforcement.

Wednesday evening, protesters once again took to the streets, in a largely peaceful rally of more than 1,000 that began with a march in downtown Oakland amid a heavy police presence. At first, the protest appeared to be in sharp contrast to the violent demonstration last week that led to the vandalism of dozens of buildings and the arrest of more than 100 people in the city’s downtown business district. But as the night wore on, a splintered group of demonstrators began a rampage through downtown, smashing windows at a dozen businesses, vandalizing several cars and forcing police in riot gear to spray tear gas. At least 18 people were arrested, the majority on suspicion of felony vandalism.

Witnesses told authorities that Mehserle fired a shot into Grant’s back while Grant was lying facedown on a train platform at the Fruitvale BART station in Oakland. Grant and others had been pulled off a train after reports of fighting, as New Year’s Eve revelers headed home after midnight.

New court documents say Grant had his hands behind his back and another officer was kneeling on his neck when he was shot.

The allegations were revealed in an Oakland police officer’s request for an arrest warrant. It said it appeared from cell phone video that “Mehserle shot and killed Oscar Grant while Grant was restrained and unarmed.”

Mehserle surrendered without incident Tuesday at a family friend’s house in an upscale neighborhood on the east shore of Lake Tahoe in Douglas County, Nev. His lawyer said his client had gone there to escape death threats and to get away from the pressures of the case, not to avoid arrest.

Mehserle, 27, who resigned after the shooting, is expected to be arraigned today in Oakland.

“As this case moves forward through the justice system and all of the circumstances of that chaotic night become clear, I fully expect Mr. Mehserle will be cleared of the charges against him,” said his lawyer, Christopher Miller. ”The case won’t be tried by video alone. I’m confident that this case is not just about a video. It’s not just about certain circumstances that folks may want to focus on.”

Orloff said he would not speculate on whether the charge would end up being first-degree murder or second-degree murder, saying the complaint “doesn’t specify the degree, it merely charges murder.”

“At this point, what I feel the evidence indicates, is an unlawful killing done by an intentional act, and from the evidence we have there’s nothing that would mitigate that to something lower than a murder,” Orloff said at a news conference.

First degree murder is a premeditated, intentional killing that carries a sentence of 25 years to life. Second-degree is an intentional killing that is not premeditated or planned and carries 15 years to life.

John Burris, the attorney for Grant’s family, which has filed a $25 million claim against BART, expressed satisfaction over the new charges.

“It is consistent with the evidence I have seen. I think the family will be pleased,” Burris said.

Meanwhile, the Napa Valley Register reported that Mehserle’s family in Napa received a bomb scare. Residents in their southeast Napa neighborhood were evacuated after Mehserle’s parents found two unidentified packages late Wednesday on their front porch.

Mehserle has refused to be interviewed by either BART investigators or Orloff.

At Wednesday’s protest, Grant’s grandfather, also named Oscar Grant, stood in the middle of the street and said, “We got to stop these people who have a gun and a badge and a license to kill.”

Mofo gotta ask me politely for it …

•January 12, 2009 • 3 Comments

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WASHINGTON (CNN) — President Bush said Monday that President-elect Barack Obama has not yet asked him to request the release of the remaining $350 billion in Troubled Asset Relief Program funds.
President Bush addresses reporters at the White House on Monday in his final news conference.

President Bush addresses reporters at the White House on Monday in his final news conference.

Bush said he has no intention of doing so unless Obama asks him to do so.

“I don’t intend to make the request unless he specifically asks me to make it,” Bush said.

If Bush submits a request in the next few days authorizing the release of the remaining funds from the TARP program, the money wouldn’t be available for 15 days at the earliest — or a few days into the Obama administration.

Senate Democrats on Sunday met with members of Obama’s economic team and emerged from the private meeting optimistic about plans to spend the remaining $350 billion in TARP funds and helping to shape the economic recovery package.

Lawmakers on both sides of the aisle have expressed unhappiness with the way the Treasury Department used the first $350 billion to capitalize banks. They object to how Treasury made investments with few strings attached and no process for tracking how the banks are using the money.
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* iReport.com: How will you remember Bush?
* Where’s the bank bailout money?

Bush addressed several other subjects in his final news conference before leaving office:

• Gaza: The president said that a “sustainable cease-fire” could be accomplished only when “Hamas stops firing rockets into Israel.”

Bush said that the “choice is Hamas’ to make.” He also stated that the best way to get a sustainable cease-fire is to “work with Egypt to stop the smuggling of arms into … Gaza.

“Countries that supply weapons to Hamas have got to stop,” he said.

• His plans after leaving office: “When I get out of here, I’m getting off the stage. I believe there ought to be one person in the Klieg lights at a time.” iReport.com: How will you remember Bush?

• Biggest mistakes in office: “Clearly putting a ‘Mission Accomplished’ [banner] on an aircraft carrier was a mistake,” Bush said about how his administration handled the fall of Baghdad to U.S. troops. “It sent the wrong message,” he said.

• Social Security: Bush said that he should have pursed a comprehensive immigration overhaul after the 2004 election, instead of Social Security reform. He said that Congress did not have the political willpower to tackle Social Security at the time because the program was not facing an “imminent” funding crisis.

• Hurricane Katrina response: Bush defended his widely criticized decision not to visit Louisiana after Hurricane Katrina hit in 2005. Bush said that if he “landed Air Force One in New Orleans or Baton Rouge” shortly after the hurricane, “law enforcement would have been pulled away from the mission.” The media, Bush said, would have then asked how he could have “possibly have flown Air Force One into Baton Rouge” when “police officers that were needed to expedite traffic out of New Orleans were taken off the task to look after you?

Another new favorite spot …

•January 11, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Thanks to my favorite writer for hipping me to this spot.

Black and Married with Kids Even though “TheDAD” flies the wrong colors on Sundays he’s a local and I’m sure I’ve argued with him in a barber shop or over a couple of Heinekens somewhere. The site and its offerings are brilliant. Comedic as hell! Not only am I adding this to my blogroll I’m planning on reaching out to stream their BMWK TV feeds.

Take a look around and enjoy ! This is a featured video from BMWK TV.

~blk