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Your Hands “I’m writing a poem in my head right now,” I tell you this morning as you brace me and embrace me to make love. “A poem about your hands,” I whisper, “About what they are doing… …right now. And what they did yesterday, and how your hands tell my body’s story, how your hands tell the story of us.” When you put your hands [...]

So tomorrow night, TechBoo and I get to celebrate another first together: Our first Chanukah party.  What to bring? I’m leaning towards a bottle of wine and the jelly doughnuts (which, coincidentally, will come from the new kosher Dunkin’ Donuts that recently opened up nearby). Saturday night, the celebrating continues with a birthday slumber par […]

Props to my Techboo, my best friend, for remembering the anniversary of when we first met, 3 years ago.  I forgot, but let me make it up to you, dear:

“The reading was sublime. All mama-writers. Lots of blood, sex, body fluids, wine.” These 3 sentences were about all I could muster on Twitter when I returned home last night from the Unblurred reading. I was pretty okay when I left the house.  By phone, Techboo had done his loving cheerleader thing.  The first time I read [...]

Join me and some other Hip Mamas for a reading at Rebellious Nature this Friday night as part of the Unblurred Art. Music.Performance Crawl along Penn Ave. Click here for details.

It’s not an overstatement to say that TechBoo loves Mary J. Blige. When I proudly told him that I’d managed to mention his favorite singer in my latest co-parenting post at The Faster Times, he gave me the side eye. “Don’t I get points for that?” I asked. “AFTER I read it,” he replied. [...]

Southwest: The Official Airline of Our Relationship Techboo and I get asked all the time, “How do you do it?”–”it” being maintain a long-distance relationship which will soon become a long-distance marriage.* Here’s one answer to that question: Tip #287: Making Long-Distance Love Work – Text Game Proper Text your lad […]

Presents…a reading by local writers Deesha Philyaw, Christina Springer, Melissa Sokulski, Kelli Stevens Kane, and Robin Monroe, along with Amanda Gilby, short fiction contest winner, reading from her piece featured in Issue 44: The Creativity Issue This latest issue honors and celebrates musicians, writers, and artists who can nurture their kids and th […]

Suffice it to say that for Techboo and me, our dance card is full between now and the new year. After Thanksgiving (which we are hosting), we’ve already RSVPed for 2 holiday parties and a Chanukah party. I’m doing a Kwanzaa presentation in BabyGirl’s kindergarten class, complete with cornbread baking activity (Jiffy!). Plus, there’s [ […]

‘Twas the night before Christmas And all through my ex’s house Only three creatures were stirring: Me, my ex, and his new spouse Read the rest of Deesha’s latest column at The Faster Times here.

We’re excited to have Mary Jo Eustace, author of Divorce Sucks: What to do When Irreconcilable Differences, Lawyer Fees and Your Ex’s Hollywood Wife Make You Miserable join us as our guest on the next “Co-Parenting Matters” show. Eustace is an actress, singer, chef, mother, author of two bestselling cookbooks and was formerly [...]

Join us on “Co-Parenting Matters” this Sunday at 9 PM EST  for a candid chat with two single dads about raising daughters. Our guests will be RJ Jaramillo, founder of SingleDad.com (who joined us for last Sunday’s lively conversation about  “Sex and the Single Parent”), and Whitney Yakini Traylor, attorney, author, and Fatherhoo […]

“Arguing with a fool proves there are two.”–Doris M. Smith, author Are you playing the fool in your co-parenting relationship?  Read on… Co-parents in conflict have no shortage of topics about which to disagree.  While disagreements are inevitable in even the most cordial of co-parenting relationships, some of the bickering is pointle […]

If you missed “Co-Parenting Matters” last night, you missed a good one.  (Well, they’re all good, but you know…)  Never fear, you can still get some excellent advice from Rachel Sarah of SingleMomSeeking.com and SingleMommyhood.com, and RJ Jaramillo of singledad.com via the podcast: Also…CONGRATULATIONS to the winners of our Twi […]

On last week’s “Co-Parenting Matters” show, we discussed ways to get over your ex, for your own well-being and to facilitate your co-parenting relationship.  We talked about strategies for healing from that severed relationship and ushering in a fresh start to the next chapter in your life, which for many of us, includes [...]

“Parents, picture your children 30 years from now and ask yourself:  ‘What would I want my child to say about how I was with her other parent?  What lessons would I want my child to have learned through our co-parenting relationship?  How did I celebrate the part of him that is the other parent?’  By [...]

It’s been a busy day here in CoParenting101 land. First up, Deesha’s latest co-parenting post, “Divorce Cakes are Bittersweet with Kids in the Mix” is up at The Faster Times.    Here’s an excerpt: And what divorce party would be complete without the cake?  Looking for some divorce cake inspiration?  Here are 31 super-subtle poss […]

I thought this question posed to me (Deesha) on Twitter made for a good Thanksgiving post-script: @coparenting101 would you share a family recipe with your ex husband’s girlfriend? My response:  I’ve shared recipes with his wife. Plus, I share my kids with her, so why not a recipe? LOL… On the subject of sharing…Mike’s mini-van […]

Well, I (Deesha) am in the airport TGIFriday’s sipping blackberry mojitos waiting to board a flight to spend Thanksgiving and a long weekend with my fiance JB, my future bonus daughters, and extended family.  JB’s done most of the shopping and is cooking the turkey, one bonus daughter has baked a cake,  and I’m happily [...]