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- Can’t stop, won’t stopI love this quote… If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive. ~Audre Lorde Multi-taksing Stats: Gosh, it’s been years since I’ve done this, but here goes…I posted this whilst grading, tweeting, lounging on the couch thinking about the red velvet waffles […]
- “America”Claude McKay wrote the following poem the year my grandmother was born. It still rings true today. America Although she feeds me bread of bitterness, And sinks into my throat her tiger’s tooth, Stealing my breath of life, I will confess I love this cultured hell that tests my youth! Her vigor flows like tides [...]
- We’re Friends of Ricki!Over at my second cyber-home, CoParenting101.org, we’ve just announce that we’re teaming up with The Ricki Lake Show. Deets. (I’m sick. I have deadlines. Pardon the brevity.)
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- Teach me how to…It’s a blessing and a curse that I’ve married a man who is a very good dancer. My bonus kids are good dancers too. This means that FedBooHusband and I have had some memorable nights on the dance floor in various cities. He’s full of energy and makes me feel like I’m the only woman [...]
- Love triumphsMy heart was heavy this morning. It was definitely shaping up to be a serenity prayer kind of day. Sometimes, in this space, I’m limited as to what I can share because while my stories are mine to tell, I tread lightly on telling other people’s stories. I have written (elsewhere) about my bonus children, [...]
- L-O-V-EAs usual, time with FedBooHusband leaves me feeling some kind of way. Several kinds of ways actually. Wistful, always wishing we had more time. But then resolute that things are they way they have to be because of the commitment we both happily make as parents. And then wistful again because our time together is [...]
- My kids are taking over the “Co-Parenting Matters” show!Our whole family vacation at Cedar Point, 2010 When our oldest daughter Taylor approached El Ex and me with the idea for an all-kids episode of “Co-Parenting Matters”, we thought it was a genius idea (not that we’re biased on anything). She said, “Co-parenting is for the kids, so kids should talk about it, right?” [...]
- “What Happened to Her????”Last night, after a Thanksgiving brunch that left FedBooHusband and me feeling like we could never eat again, we got a call from some friends, a couple FBH has known for years. They invited us to come over and “Come hungry!” The idea of any more food made us weak, but we enjoy hanging out [...]
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- Co-Parenting Peace…After an AffairRecently, we heard from D, a co-parenting mom, who shared with us the pain and difficulty of co-parenting in the wake of her ex’s infidelity. We offer the story below from another co-parenting mom to D and other parents who are struggling to find a glimpse of hope. Even if your circumstances aren’t identical, we [...]
- Bird’s Nest Co-Parenting 101Are you wondering if bird’s nest co-parenting could work for your family? Or are you wondering, “What’s bird’s nest co-parenting?” A co-parenting mom of three breaks it down for us in this guest post. My ex-husband and I are attempting Bird’s Nest Custody. I say attempting because it is an up and down process but [...]
- Co-Parents Say the Darndest Things! #1I had the best time snuggling with my boys this morning. I was telling “M” how lucky I was to have such wonderful boys, and he said “That’s right! Me, and “H,” and Daddy!” And I told him, “You’re right! I AM lucky to have such wonderful boys in my life, including the one who [...]
- Domestic Violence Prevention and Co-ParentingWhen co-parents are civil and cooperative with one another, they and their kids can thrive. However, when co-parents stay mired in high-conflict situations, we encourage them to disengage from battling with the other parent, and to find resources, such as counseling, to help themselves and their children process the break-up and the fallout. Unfortunately, […]
- Co-Parenting Quote of the Week: ” My Ex Brings the Fuel and I Refuse to Light the Match”“My ex brings the fuel and I refuse to light the match.” This wonderful nugget of wisdom comes from CD, an active member of the CoParenting101.org group on Facebook. CD also made the following observation from the trenches of his co-parenting situation: Funny how standing your ground (or reinforcing established boundaries) is more effective when […]
- The Yin and Yang of our Co-Parenting PartnershipLast week, as I (Deesha) drove our daughters home from school, the conversation turned to one of Peyton’s 2nd grade classmates. His family is relocating to Qatar, and he invited Peyton to visit him there. Peyton asked if she could go. I said, “Well, if his parents invited you, and we could afford it, perhaps [...]
- In Memory of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” It has been said that the co-parent’s charge is: “Love your child more than you hate your ex.” While Dr. King was not directing these words at co-parents specifically, they certainly ring true for us. [...]
- A Co-Parent Comes to Terms with “The Other Mother”Previously, co-parenting mom Onika Pascal shared a quite apt analogy with us: co-parents as co-pilots. In today’s guest post, she shares candidly about how she came to terms with the potential “other mother” in her son’s life. Between the battle of emotions dealing with a divorce or breakup, accepting that the relationship is over, […]
- A Co-Parent’s Lament: “I am Not My Son’s Favorite Parent”Sondra Santos Drahos, founder of Happy Healthy Hip Parenting, wrote recently about making peace with her son’s desire to spend more time with his father: Sharing custody is not easy for any of us. Right now, he has no choice but to go back and forth when all he craves, all he needs, what he [...]
- Co-Parents, Do You Have a Dad Basket?This is the Dad Basket in Deesha’s foyer. When people ask us how we manage to get along post-divorce as co-parents, usually they’re asking about emotional stuff. But while the emotional components to our transition from spouses to divorce co-parents is important, the practical aspects of our co-parenting partnership also factor in. Take, for exa […]
