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I’m late with this, but only recently did I find out that the piece below would not be running as a guest-post at Psychology Today after all.  Some sort of bureaucratic misunderstanding, but I still thank Meredith Resnick for the invitation. As Christmas approaches, my daughters and I have been revisiting treasured picture books that tell [...]

So I went to El Ex’s house early yesterday evening with gifts, pug puppies (food, wee-wee pads, deodorizer, treats), and the makings of my crab dip in tow.  Since we split up nearly 5 years ago, it’s been our custom to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas Day together with our daughters.  Now that we’ve both [...]

Getting married is nothing; it is assuming the responsibility of marriage that counts.—Haitian proverb Like hopefully anyone who remarries, TechBoo and I are very conscious of “doing it better” the second time around.  So the above proverb from Lifelines: The Black Book of Proverbs really resonates.  Over on Co-Parenting101.or, we’re giving […]

…being on the phone with TechBoo as he and my future bonus-daughters sing “This Christmas” and various and sundry songs by New Edition.  Bonus-Daughter #2 does a nice rendition of this: And the evening’s finale? TechBoo serenading me with this: But wait…Bonus Daughter #2 is back…with this: And she hit every note! But of co […]

Your Hands “I’m writing a poem in my head right now,” I tell you this morning as you brace me and embrace me to make love. “A poem about your hands,” I whisper, “About what they are doing… …right now. And what they did yesterday, and how your hands tell my body’s story, how your hands tell the story of us.” When you put your hands [...]

So tomorrow night, TechBoo and I get to celebrate another first together: Our first Chanukah party.  What to bring? I’m leaning towards a bottle of wine and the jelly doughnuts (which, coincidentally, will come from the new kosher Dunkin’ Donuts that recently opened up nearby). Saturday night, the celebrating continues with a birthday slumber par […]

Props to my Techboo, my best friend, for remembering the anniversary of when we first met, 3 years ago.  I forgot, but let me make it up to you, dear:

“The reading was sublime. All mama-writers. Lots of blood, sex, body fluids, wine.” These 3 sentences were about all I could muster on Twitter when I returned home last night from the Unblurred reading. I was pretty okay when I left the house.  By phone, Techboo had done his loving cheerleader thing.  The first time I read [...]

Join me and some other Hip Mamas for a reading at Rebellious Nature this Friday night as part of the Unblurred Art. Music.Performance Crawl along Penn Ave. Click here for details.

A reader, Petricia, recently left the following comment in what remains our most popular post, “My Boyfriend, His Kids, and His Ex”.  Because questions like Petricia’s are so commonly posted here, we thought it warranted a fresh response from our resident co-parenting dad, Mike. Petricia writes: I have been dating this guy for just over a y […]

To engage in conflict, one does not bring a knife that cuts but a needle that sews.–Kiswahili proverb Okay, like our Quotes of the Day, proverbs like the one above  weren’t written with co-parents specifically in mind, but they sure can illuminate some truths about the co-parenting journey.  Truly, after a break-up, co-parents are called to [...] […]

We were thrilled to have Mary Jo Eustace as our guest this past Sunday on the last Co-Parenting Matters show of 2009.  We talked about her book Divorce Sucks: What to Do When Irreconcilable Differences, Lawyer Fees, and Your Ex’s Hollywood Wife Make You Miserable; about divorce healing; and about how to co-parent effectively after [...]

A shout-out to Single Dad Life where we first read the following excerpt from the book Stepmonster.  It is reposted here with permission from the author: Misinformation from the Stepmothering Industry By Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. Books for stepmothers tend to perpetuate certain myths. The myth of the blended family and the myth of the maternal stepmother are t […]

‘Tis the season for some of us to stretch budgets and make every dollar count, so we’re pleased to share with you an exciting announcement from our friend Samantha Gregory, founder of Rich Single Momma: “I want to introduce you to a new site that is an interactive combination of social networking, education, and personal growth. [...]

‘Twas the night before Christmas And all through my ex’s house Only three creatures were stirring: Me, my ex, and his new spouse Read the rest of Deesha’s latest column at The Faster Times here.

We’re excited to have Mary Jo Eustace, author of Divorce Sucks: What to do When Irreconcilable Differences, Lawyer Fees and Your Ex’s Hollywood Wife Make You Miserable join us as our guest on the next “Co-Parenting Matters” show. Eustace is an actress, singer, chef, mother, author of two bestselling cookbooks and was formerly [...]

Join us on “Co-Parenting Matters” this Sunday at 9 PM EST  for a candid chat with two single dads about raising daughters. Our guests will be RJ Jaramillo, founder of SingleDad.com (who joined us for last Sunday’s lively conversation about  “Sex and the Single Parent”), and Whitney Yakini Traylor, attorney, author, and Fatherhoo […]

“Arguing with a fool proves there are two.”–Doris M. Smith, author Are you playing the fool in your co-parenting relationship?  Read on… Co-parents in conflict have no shortage of topics about which to disagree.  While disagreements are inevitable in even the most cordial of co-parenting relationships, some of the bickering is pointle […]

If you missed “Co-Parenting Matters” last night, you missed a good one.  (Well, they’re all good, but you know…)  Never fear, you can still get some excellent advice from Rachel Sarah of SingleMomSeeking.com and SingleMommyhood.com, and RJ Jaramillo of singledad.com via the podcast: Also…CONGRATULATIONS to the winners of our Twi […]